When you first got together with your partner, it was all fireworks, laughter and fairy dust.
But months or years down the line, is your relationship still worth it? It’s natural for the intense passion of the 'honeymoon period' to wear off, but if you’re seeing one or more of these tell-tale signs, it's likely that your relationship is going nowhere.
1. The silences aren't comfortable any more – they’re boring.
Once upon a time you used to be able to sit in silence, holding hands and gazing into each other’s eyes. You didn't have to talk to each other to feel comfortable, just being in each other’s presence was enough. If you’ve reached a point where the silences are boring, or even worse,uncomfortable, you might have to face facts that your relationship is on its way out!
2. Everything about them annoys you.
That habit they have of finishing your sentences for you, you know, the one you used to think was cute? Now it annoys the hell out of you, along with their dress sense, the way they slurp their coffee and the shape of their head. If just being in the same room as them leaves you feeling irritated, maybe you should avoid being in the same room . . . permanently.
3. You’re happier when you’re alone.
Everyone needs alone time at some point, but if you’re finding yourself wishing they weren't there all of the time, it’s probably time that you make that dream a reality.
4. There’s no affection anymore.
We don’t just mean sex (although if that’s an issue, see number 8), a good relationship should also have love and affection outside of the bedroom. Are you still being tactile, hugging each other and kissing each other hello and goodbye? If not, are you sure you’re not just friends now?
5. You love scoring points over your partner.
If winning an argument or being right when your partner is wrong make you rub your hands in glee, it’s a sign that something’s definitely not right in your relationship.
6. You’re fighting about the same thing over and over, with no resolution.
If you’re having the same fights over and over again, why hasn’t one of you compromised in order to make things right? If it’s the case that you just can’t agree, then maybe it’s time to call it a day. If it’s just that you love to fight . . . well, surely that’s telling you something?
7. You’re thinking about cheating.
It’s human nature to look at other people when you’re in a relationship, but if you’ve actually selected someone and are seriously thinking of cheating, it’s a huge sign that you should be single. Do the right thing; end it with your partner and you’re free to start dating!
8. You don’t have sex anymore.
Sex is such a basic human desire that even couples in unhappy relationships will usually still be active in the bedroom department. So if your relationship has become a completely no-sex zone, for reasons other than health issues or distance, you’ve got a serious problem.
9. You don’t miss them when they’re not there . . .
. . . and in fact, you feel relieved that they’re not! You used to practically ache for them when you were apart, but now you couldn’t care less.
10. When you fantasise about your future, they don’t figure in it,
If you’re fantasising about a future without them in it, or even with someone else instead, then your subconscious probably knows what it is that you don’t want to face.
If you’re nodding your head in agreement to any of these signs, then you’re likely to already have an idea that your relationship is going nowhere. Don’t panic though, there are plenty more fish in the sea, and it’s much better to be single and happy than in a relationship that makes you miserable.