If you've recently re-entered the dating scene as a mature dater, you've probably encountered a predicament or two that has left you feeling discouraged. Keep reading to learn about three of the most common dilemmas and what you can do to overcome them.
Dating Dilemma #1: Lack of Confidence
Maybe an ugly divorce has left you feeling a little worse for wear, or perhaps you simply feel out of practice. Either way, you may feel a less confident than you did when you were dating in your younger years.
First, recognise that nearly everyone you meet is in the same boat. Suffering from a lack of confidence or low self-esteem is one of the most prevalent factors that stand in the way of happiness. Unfortunately, confidence is not something that you can turn on with the flip of a switch. It requires a complete change in your attitude and mentality.
To start building up your confidence, strive to have a positive mindset. Stop focusing on things that you don't like about yourself and direct your energy toward the things that make you unique. Consider changing up your routine and taking on a new hobby, or give yourself a makeover. By accepting your perceived shortcomings and working toward personal growth, you can slowly restore your self-esteem and find the confidence you need to pursue a new relationship.
Dating Dilemma #2: You're Experiencing Problems with Adult Children
Whether your child is 4 or 40, it is likely very challenging for them to watch their parent enter into a new romantic relationship. They may express feelings of resentment and jealousy, leaving you feeling torn and guilty.
As we've said before, you should not involve your children in your dating relationship until it becomes serious. Remember that your children want you to be happy, but it may take some time for them to adjust to the idea of you pursuing a romantic relationship. Your new relationship is only possible because of the dissolution of your relationship with their other parent, whether through death or divorce, and it may amplify their feelings of loss or disappointment.
Make the initial meetings casual and low-pressure, and keep the lines of communication open to allay concerns and prevent tension. Be patient with your children and respect the fact that they may have mixed feelings regarding your new love interest. By allowing your children to ease into a relationship with your significant other, you can ensure a smoother process for everyone.
Dating Dilemma #3: You're Not Sure How to Begin
In your younger years, group outings provided you with plenty of opportunities to meet potential love interests. Today, everyone in your circle is married or in a long term committed relationship.
There are plenty of available men and women your age; you just need to know where to look. Branch out from your normal routine by joining a club, signing up for a class or participating in a new hobby.
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