In the relatively new world of online dating, many singles would probably say that connecting with a potential partner is much easier than in traditional dating. You have a host of technology available right at your fingertips, helping you meet the person of your dreams.
On the other hand, for every problem that it solved, technology seems to have introduced complications that make dating etiquette more difficult to define. According to many all-knowing—albeit old-fashioned—dating experts, women should still wait for men to make the first move.
And so they do. In fact, a survey conducted by Psychology Today suggests that only 6% of women feel comfortable asking a man out on a date.
We've said it before: if you're waiting for a man to ask you out, you may end up missing out on a great relationship. If you need some encouragement before you break this tired old dating rule, check out our list of six reasons why girls should make the first move.
Sometimes the Men Need a Break
Making the first move is risky. Every time you do so, you make yourself vulnerable and risk rejection. Poor men; they're expected to risk that rejection over and over again. If there's a man you're interested in, give him a break by making the first move.
You Can Put an End to the Waiting Game
Remember way back in the day when women sat by their phones, eagerly awaiting a phone call that may or may not come? Wait, that was just last weekend? What if we told you that you can just skip that dreadful part of dating?
Sure, making the first move is a risk, but at least you'll get a quicker resolution to the he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not dilemma. By being the one to send the first email or make the first phone call, you can put an end to the waiting game and find out if you have a chance with your latest crush or if it's time to move on.
You Can Show Confidence
Confidence is one of the most attractive traits that a woman can have, and being willing to make the first move shows that you've got it. You've taken control of your career, your home and your everyday life, and there's absolutely no reason that you can't take control of your love life as well.
And be honest: if a man finds your confidence off-putting, is that really someone you want to be in a relationship with?
You Get to Perfect Your Technique
Every aspect of dating takes practice, and there's no shortcut to developing a solid technique. By getting into the habit of making the first move rather than waiting for a man to initialise a connection, you can figure out which approaches yield the best results and which ones do not.
You Can Show that You Don't Play Games
Mixed signals are the worst, aren't they? Many people are so afraid of being rejected that they're afraid to actually invest in a relationship. We're left with a jumbled bag of coy texts, heartfelt emails and strange innuendos.
Making the first move is a great way to cut straight through all of the games. If you're tired of trying to analyse his mixed signals, the best way to receive a solid answer is to simply ask for one. If you ask him out, you'll get a quick "yes" or "no," giving you freedom from obsessing over his random text messages or emails.
You Can Create Your Own "Normal"
We may have entered into the 21st century, but there are still many women trying to navigate what it means to be their own advocates. It may seem like a small step, but making the first move in a relationship allows you to create your own sense of what is normal and acceptable. If you spend your entire life waiting patiently for people to give you what you want, you'll probably end up pretty unsatisfied. Creating your own "normal" approach to your love life is great practice and motivation to take a more proactive approach in other areas of life.
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